love is a crazy thing, and you never know how to handle it until you are right in the middle of it all. me personally… i am there, and it was no easy stroll. i can say though, that since i am there, i’d do all i can to stay there, because i feel its worth it. we gave each other hell, both came with extra baggage, and our fair share of bullshit, but we fought through it, and things are great. if you can fight to gain something, why wouldnt you fight to hold on to it?

now, im not saying that a woman has to be a complete submissive fool, and overlook bullshit to hold on to what they feel is love… but if she can handle something, why not do so? i’ve had my fair share of conversations with people, about how some females handle their relationships, but who are we to say, “she’s a damn fool for puttin up with so and so and so forth…” ?

i’ve learned that being on the outside looking in, doesnt give you a good perspective on how someone deals with whatever it is that they are enduring. you may see two people in a relationship, know he is cheating, know that she knows, and call her a fool for not leaving him for doing so. but, what if she just genuinely doesnt care? what if she herself, is doing her share of dirt? what if, that situation just works for them? if a female is secure with herself, her man, and her relationship, maybe the sex side of things just doesnt bother her like most would think. that whole… “im wifey. i get all his time, love, and attention” type of thinking. some can handle that, some arent quite cut out for it. after having a long convo with a friend…i was asked if i could be that female. :lol: like i told her, “i’ll let you know if im in that situation…”

now… what if the person you love, got locked up and had to do about five years; could you be that woman who stayed and waited on him? if you really love that person, care about that person with everything that is within you, and everything between yall is going great, could you do it? is it worth it? some females can. they will write, they will visit, they will send money, answer phone calls, and do anything they can, because they have the heart, the love, and the strength to do so. but again…is it worth it? there is always a chance something can go wrong. a chance that he can come home and not be the same person he once was. but if you are on your game, you can keep him sane, keep him hopeful, and there is a bigger chance that nothing will change. there is always two sides to an “if“…

now, what if your man was a good man, a GREAT man… but everything just started going bad for him, and he fell on hard times. he cant find a job, has no place to stay, but with moms… his funds are low, gear a lil weak, and his hustle just aint movin no more. this doesnt mean he’s not trying, doesnt mean he’s hopeless, but do you have the hope and faith to struggle with him, help him, take care of him as much as you can until he gets back on his feet? some females will be quick to move him in, pay a bill, cook a meal, share some encouraging words, and there are some who feel as “if you arent doin just as much as me, if not better, why keep you?” that “you gotta be on my level” type mentality. nobody belives in strugglin’ and makin a come up together anymore…

but as i said before, im not saying that anyone should “settle for less“, become a fool for love, or just toss your standards out the window… but, just look at things from a totally different perspective when you come across these types of females, or dont run and hide if you think you’re becoming one of them. just remember that love is something thats hard to come by, and once you truely believe you have found it, dont be so quick to give up on it, if you can handle something other may “look down” on, then do YOU. who the fuck are they? 9 times out of 10, they are stuck in a fucked up relationship, and are unhappy themselves. nobody is perfect, and life is no fairy tale, folks. times are changing, and getting tougher. learn your strengths…

im going to watch a movie with mines…
goodnight.